When it is necessary to attend a worship service, Bible study, or ministry event, don’t waste time taking notes or exploring Bible passages later at home. It is best to forget the message taught, and under no circumstance should you be driven by either guilt or the Holy Spirit to apply principles learned or change an attitude or opinion.

Promote personal freedom of religion. What one man considers sin another considers fun and normal. Don’t be a judge of others’ lifestyles and life choices. “What goes around comes around.” If you begin thinking that there are serious consequences to the beliefs and pursuits of other men and women, you can be sure that your own actions and viewpoints will be called into question. Allow your children to explore faith on their own rather than forcing your beliefs on them.

When appropriate, affirm your belief in Jesus and God, but don’t allow Him to Lord it over you. You must be realistic. You are responsible to live your own life and make all decisions this side of the grave. To believe that someone else actually owns your property or is concerned about your day to day affairs is very impractical and may cost you.

Have no concern for the needs of others. You have enough trouble and responsibility to keep you busy, and that leaves no room for compassion or interest in the hurts and crushing burdens of others. For those truly in need, there are many government agencies and benevolent organizations that have been created just for that purpose. Fewer attachments and relationships will help keep your own affairs in order.

Never volunteer to share or cooperate with others in ministry. There are too many who do not believe just like you do or who will drag you down with more work. Cooperation inevitably leads to disagreements and will require more time, energy, and money. As the old saying goes, “If you want something done right, just do it yourself.”

NEVER admit your faults, NEVER ask forgiveness, and NEVER seek out what God genuinely thinks about a particular matter, unless it is to your advantage in winning an argument or gaining control over someone else.

If you will begin to practice these steps, you are guaranteed to stymie growth, create an atmosphere of distrust and discord, help your pastor start praying for another place of service, become known even in circles outside church, and help more people to hell than you can imagine.